You and Me Together

When was the last time you made your husband feel like he was your hero? Is he entirely convinced that he is your one and only? Does he know he still makes you weak in the knees when he enters a room?

Life gets hard. We can get lost in the grind of it all. Add some kids, work, school, music and other extracurricular commitments and you can lose sight of each other quickly.

Don't lose sight of each other!!

The demands of life cannot eclipse the one we chose to love for life.

Over the child raising years, we have made a solid effort to stay connected. Ballroom dancing is still on the top of the list for best date night/week!! We laughed our way through classes and had so much fun together. We cannot wait to go back! Another date ended with hysterical giggles in the card aisle of London Drugs. It was a good month for funny cards (or we were just that exhausted!!)

We also were quick to learn our limit of commitment to things outside of the essentials. We kept extracurricular activities manageable. We pulled back when we discovered we had taken on too much  Over time, we learned what rhythms we could maintain. We haven't always done this perfectly. But there were signs along the way, and we did our best to pay attention. Our priority always remained,  stay healthy as a family and in our marriage. We cannot and should not offer our kids everything. We cannot do everything we are asked to. The best word we every learned was "no."


Our best energy needs to remain available and focused on God, marriage, kids, work. For us, it has to be in that order. Our children have no doubt about our love and commitment to these priorities and the order of them.

Lately, I have realized that I needed a course correction. Every once in a while, life throws me off. I need to make sure, in many little ways, each day, that Craig knows he is my hero and the love of my life.  My words, my actions, priorities all need to demonstrate this. I choose him, and he still makes me weak in the knees. He needs to know that!

We are at this weird place in life, in the blink of an eye, our children will be out the door. While we have treasured these years with our amazing kids and have wished time to slow down, we are also giddy to be alone, just the two of us. I am feeling a little done with sharing my husband. I want him all to myself again!

I think part of why we feel this way is that we made that effort to stay connected. We have not lost site of our marriage being something that needs nurturing. We have done our best through the good, bad and ugly of life to keep reaching for God and moving toward each other. We have worked to learn how to keep connecting to each other through the joy, mundane, grief and pain that life throws at us.

You and me together babe! Can't wait for what's next!!